100/ 100 Days of Books -Bed and Board: Plain Talk about Marriage-

Bed and Board -Plain Talk about Marriage-

Robert Farrar Capon is an Episcopalian priest and I am a Reformed ordinary woman; however, in spite of some of our theological  differences, I love reading his books. His writing style is captivating and his insights in many matters of life are worth considering.

Here are a few quotes from the first four chapters of this book:

“For marriage is a paradox second only to life itself. That at the age of twenty or so, with little knowledge of each other and a dangerous overdose of self-confidence, two human beings should undertake to commit themselves for life -and that church and state should receive their vows with a straight face -all this is absurd indeed.”

“To be born, to love a woman, to cry at music, to catch a cold, to die -these are not excursions on the narrow road of logic; they are blind launchings on a trackless sea. They are not bargains, they are commitments, and for ordinary people, marriage is the very keel of their keel of their commitment, the largest piece of a ballast in their small and storm-tossed boat… You cannot contract out of being born, out of crying, out of loving, out of dying; you cannot contract out of marriage. It may be uncomfortable, it certainly is absurd; but it is not abnormal.”

“It is the feeding and watering of the leviathan of their commitment that the marriage rite is about.”

“So forget about practicing that, I tell them [couples in premarital counseling]. You’ll have plenty of time later… What you really need to practice is keeping promises.”

“A man and a woman schooled in pride cannot simply sit down together and start caring. It takes humility to look wide-eyed at somebody else, to praise, to cherish, to honor.”

“The only available candidates for matrimony are, every last of them, sinners. As sinners, they are in a fair way to wreck themselves and anyone else who gets within arm’s length of them. Without virtue, therefore no marriage will make it. The first of all vocations, the ground line of the walls of the New Jerusalem is made of stuff like truthfulness, patience, love and liberality; of prudence, justice, temperance, and courage; and of all their adjuncts and circumstances: manners, consideration, fair speech and the ability to keep one’s mouth shut and one’s heart open, as needed.”

“The husband is over his wife as the head is over the body. It isn’t a description of what ought to be; it just says what is. He is the head. He will be a good one or a bad one, depending; but if he isn’t the head, there isn’t any other.”

Soli Deo Gloria

This entry was published on Tuesday, February 19, 2013 at 9:59 am. It’s filed under 100 Days of Books, Books, Farrar Capon, Marriage and tagged , , , . Bookmark the permalink. Follow any comments here with the RSS feed for this post.

One thought on “100/ 100 Days of Books -Bed and Board: Plain Talk about Marriage-

  1. Becky,
    I am reading Supper of the Lamb, I just finished the onion theology part and was convicted and inspired. Mr. Capon’s thelogy of the physical hits like a brick to my chest. I long for that. I can’t wait to read this book, too-it’s going in my cart now. thank you. I love reading your reviews.

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